As awful as this sound to me i gotta be honest here in my blog for my future reading. i have no high hope nor new year resolution for this new year.
But i did learn some lesson regarding love. and i really thing i can reflect to this advise by Jillian Harris.
You Can Only Control You
Well, the first important thing our relationship taught me was that we can never change other people and we are only responsible for ourselves. If you don’t trust someone, if someone isn’t dependable or doesn’t quite measure up when it comes to making you feel like a million bucks... chances are (I am so sorry to say) that won’t change. Us hopeless romantics cling to those stories of the bad boy turning over a new leaf and becoming prince charming but unfortunately bad habits are hard to break. And ultimately, it’s not worth worrying about changing the other person because as I said above, all we really have control over is ourselves.
Trust Your Gut
I’ve learned that no one in the world is worth loosing yourself and your securities for. Turn off your heart for one minute and really ask yourself “is this person really able to make me happy?” You’re smart, and you’ve been blessed with instinct so always follow it. If you DO feel that this person is your one and only and able to make you happy then you can depend on a little patience, backing off and time to solve your issues.
Give All Your Trust The biggest thing I think I learned was how to trust. The thing is, trust is less about the other person and more about you and your emotional availability and confidence. If it turns out that he actually is untrustworthy you’ll find out in due time and know that you always did your best to support the relationship. Though it’s hurtful to have someone deceive your trust, investing and trusting people is always the right way to go because you’ll never get anywhere in a relationship if you don’t dive in 100 percent. So when it comes to trust in love I learned to give it all; you’ll come out in a good place either way.
So true. so true. so true!!!
When you've been with this person for years already and you keep on putting some faith and patient with your partner for many many times already but all he did was made you angry and disappointing you over and over again. and he kept doing the same mistake again and again to you. This might make you think if that person really worth it for you and what you have sacrifice. will this person make you happy like the first time you met him?
But it is a hard decision because you need to think about it in a long term way.